The Introvert According To An Introvert
“Reality is a lovely place
But I wouldn’t want to live there”
~Owl City – The Real World
Something I’ve always wondered about are the differences between the people who always seem to grab every opportunity to go out compared to those who just want to stay at home. Perhaps the more familiar terms for these people are introverts and extroverts, and I’ll refer to them as Intro and Extro respectively. This perspective I’m typing about comes from mine, a historically-proven 100% guaranteed Intro, in response to more thoughts I’ve tried to find answers to.
Picture this: at the end of your class, you’re asked all of the sudden if you’d like to go out to a restaurant here or a mall there. One thing I’m certain of is that before this surprise invitation and regardless of who you are, you already have an idea of how the rest of your day will go after the academics. It all depends on what you’d rather prioritize or what you feel you would enjoy more — staying in or going out. The Intro for the former and the Extro for the latter most of the times, but I’ve begun to wonder why it really is this way. What does the Intro achieve from choosing to stay inside and what does the Extro achieve by going out? In fact, what does the Intro achieve from being an Intro at all?
At this point it is completely out of my grasp with regards to the Extro perspective for obvious reasons, so I shall give my take on the Intro’s, well, mine. Actually, it’s not just mine but also my brother who feels the same way and we both agree. A big reason why Intro’s choose to stay inside is because they find infinitely many things that they’re able to do or accomplish with relevance to their interests. I find this most especially true for most everything I want to do — compose and perform music, tend to my general vicinity and what could be done to make it more efficient ( and hopefully less messy-looking ), attempt to read, learn programming and development, discover music, attempt to draw, clean up my computer physically and internally, exercise, optimize my presence on the internet and look for ways to expand and reach out, be a good student and actually study, game, write … and then some of the things that would usually be accomplished outside like socializing and catching the latest movies have conveniently been turned into Facebook, Twitter and The Pirate Bay. This being the case I rarely find the need to go out, attend parties ( of which I have never done, ever ) and other such outside activities if they don’t directly appeal to my interests like maybe visiting and hanging out at friend’s houses, having music lessons, going to the gym, having specific things I want to buy and most especially, foodtripping, considering that these happen at all and isn’t routinely done.
There’s also the impression different people would have over myself and other Intro’s. Intro’s reading this article, when you’re asked by people how life is for you or what you do for fun, do you tend to be short-spoken, speechless and out of things you want to say? I sure as hell do experience this and recently I might’ve figured out why. When we’re asked things like that we tend to look for ways to encapsulate what we do in terminology that can be understood by all. In a sense, be a bit more radio-friendly or people-friendly. In my case I don’t say “Oh, I was listening to and appreciating the heaviness of the metal riffs in Stratovarius’ song Stand My Ground from their new album Nemesis. It’s quite a departure from their usual power metal sound and especially different from their progressive approach in their last album Elysium.” and instead I say “Listening to music.”. While I’m not saying that it’s a completely bad thing to do this for it has its own pros and cons, what is for sure is that a certain, major piece of individuality, wonder and character is taken out of what you want to express in order to appeal to an audience that may not be receptive to such elaborated detail. I feel that is an important ingredient into expressing who you really are, and “over-encapsulation” would lead to a very boring, downgraded and lowered view of one’s self. Never fall into this trap.
We all have our own unique selves, our own personalities and individuality, and we attain this individuality of course by tending to our interests, most of which we can find in the confines of our very own homes. If I were to analogize Intro’s and Extro’s in terms of batteries, Intro’s get to recharge best at home and Extro’s outdoors.
That’s what gives them the power to be and feel alive.